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Ending a relationship when you have a child is a very complex thing. Many couples stay together long after the relationship might have naturally ended because of children. Lots of research has shown that children weigh heavily into the factors around breaking up, even though this is just an unintentional cause. When a married couple decides to divorce, they must ask the ‘marriage counseling’ service to get the best solutions for the involved child. So, how can you tell when to end a relationship with a child involved?
Is it right to stay married for the kids’ sake, despite the fact you and your husband seem hardly to get along together? What if one party wants to divorce and the other does not agree? For sure, the decision to divorce, especially when children are involved, is one of the most difficult choices a person can face. Ending a long-term relationship is much terrible than you think – it adds stress to the lives of each spouse, their families, their kids, and friends. Divorce tends to bring out the worst in people; unfortunately, the one who has to handle all the hurt feelings and anger from the adults is the children.
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This is why all couples have the intention to separate are often encouraged to work on their issues and challenge themselves to repair the marriages before choosing divorce. There are many methods you can try, like reading books, talking with friends and loved ones, and visiting the relationship counselor. The counseling process can help both parents to be able to successfully co-parent their children until they are grown. A healthy marriage is always better for the kids.
However, there are still several cases in which you can’t bear anymore. If your situation falls into one of the following ideas, then it’s time to leave your relationship:
- You and your children are being abused physically, verbally (emotionally), financially, or even sexually.
- Your partner have ‘substance addiction’ problem; for example, he/she is an alcoholic, a drug addict, or a food addict.
- Your partner has constant affairs and this is painful to you.
You may leave your relationship for multiple reasons, and some of those probably involve how you and the children are being treated. Have a Marriage Advice Chat and do not let the guilt take over you!
Regarding the ‘when to end a relationship with a child involved‘ topic, feel free to leave your opinions in the contact box.
my husband and I is married for almost 15years now I want to know when I ned to give up my marriage its hard for me because we have 5 kids and my kids loves their father so much,i do love my husband but the thing is when he was laid off from work I take the place to do the job,so technically I do all the bills foods everything.we always fight and say harsh words to each other,theres a point that he physically hurting me,but at the end of the day we just end up talking and do normal things.he actyally have a lot of mistakes and sins that I always do forgive him,he have a vices,involving gambling and drugs bt still even I know hes still doing it I still forgive me.i don’t know who am I gonna talk to I don’t tell my parents about it even my friends doesn’t know it they all know were a happy family,although yea w are my kids do,but me I’m not happy with this.i love my usband so much but I don’t know how to move on without him.my kids are really intach and close to him.he actually love our kids as I can see and feel it.but how will I end this? pls I need someone to give me advice on this.thanks
I’m young, perhaps naive… at a mere 23… I fear, and yet don’t know. I grew up in a sexually abusive environment, moved to my mother’s states away and suffered emotional abuse… now my partner… after advice from friends and family I’m torn so completely for what i want for my child and myself, yet confused by both. OCD, Anxiety, Traits of narcissist, anger issues, PTSD; the things that inflict him, even if he denies them at times… I feel as though i don’t know what my own reality is. I feel as though i need to run away, but fear i will end up as his previous partners… hated beyond help, to the detriment of our child. I truly have nothing without him, my family unable to help me in their own ways. What do I do.
Hi Darcia,
If you feel like this you need a bit of building up. You are not nothing you are something. You may get value from understanding your strengths and what you would really love to do in life.
But you are not alone. Many women feel like this, I think because we sometimes value men’s identities more than our own.
One of the downsides of being a woman is feeling invisible or less important than men. Government leaders, company bosses, leading movie stars are all men – where are the women? There are pressures on us from childhood to be nice little girls, pretty and supportive of our men. Depending on how you were raised, this sense of invisibility might be high or low. And we often think we need men to be visible or have significance.
One of the most capable women I know is terrified of her father dying because she feels she will be helpless without him. This woman paid off her home by age 19 with only a high school education! Her dad didn’t do this, she did it on her own, but she has not given herself credit for being the wonderful smart woman that she is.
My parents hated each other for 20 years. When my father left, my mother was devastated. “I’m nothing without him,” she sobbed. She felt her world had come to an end. For 20 years she was an isolated housewife not respected by her cheating spouse. So fast forward ten years and my mother -who left school 16 and pregnant – was awarded her doctorate degree and became is a university lecturer. Plus had a great boyfriend.
You are something. You are valuable on your own, just as you are. I hope you can take some time to explore who that wonderful interesting person really is.
Sincere