What is relationship anxiety? As you all know, relationship can be one of the most pleasurable things on the planet; however, it can also be a breeding ground for anxious thoughts and feelings. According Ph.D. Susan Heitler – a professional relationship counselor – anxiety, worrying, and fearfulness can block the ability to enjoy comfortable relationships. Anxiety undermines a sense of confidence and personal power, and relationship anxiety potentially arises at pretty much any stage of courtship.
What causes anxiety in your relationship? So many things can bring on anxiety in relationships; mysteriously, it arrives, like a sudden fog on a clear day, and hangs on far too long. The feeling can be seriously unpleasant; and believe us, it’s a feeling that most people want to get rid of as soon as possible. For example, when people start dating, the early stages can present them with endless worries: ‘Does he like me?‘ ‘Will this relationship work out?‘ Terribly, these worries don’t tend to subside in the later stages of a romantic union. In fact, anxiety can get even more intense: ‘Can this relationship last?‘ ‘Do I really like him?‘ ‘Is he losing interest?‘
All the worries can make you feel alone. It can lead you to create distance between yourself and your partner. How to deal with relationship anxiety? Here are five ways that can help you control the anxiety and allow yourself to be vulnerable to someone you love, take a look:
- Exercise anxiety reduction strategies – anxiety is still anxiety, and the effective anxiety reduction method can help control the way you feel. Exercise is the easiest and most powerful anxiety treatment for controlling anxiety symptoms.
- Start over – if the trust for your partner is gone, you should tell him about starting over completely. Trust is about building a foundation, and it needs to be grown from the ground up.
- Exchange needs – frequently make conversations with the partner about each other’s needs. Do you best to complete things the other half wants, and don’t expect them to do any of your list.
- Stay mentally busy as much as possible
- Be physically affectionate
By following the tips in the “What is relationship anxiety” subject, you are able to overcome relationship anxiety. Send us your questions the box (if any)!
So I was seeing this guy for a few months, he was working alot and because of that I ended up waiting around for him ( bad idea i know ) I over text, got frustrated, fought everything, basically messed the whole thing up due to my anxiety over waiting. So now he doesn’t like me anymore and I so upset I messed it up! We are still talking well its really cold talking from him,. but I deeply regret getting so worked up and he refuses to give me another chance. Is there any way to get my power back here ?? He was So into me to begin with and I really like him and I am disappointed in my behavior. What can I do here? I am stopping texting him now as I look desperate but is there anyway back?? Please help me I am so upset over myself.
I really need advice.
kim burly says
hello ok so my bofriend is alwas onlineplaing his playstayion and never spends an time with me i mean he is litterally on it from the time he gets up that is the first thing he dose untill the time he goes to sleep but he usually dosent sleep he stays up all night playing it anyways i just found out that he is playing games online with other females and im not happy about it at all he thinks there is nothing wrong with it but i do i think it is very disrespectful to me and you just dont do that kind of stuff when your in a relationship with someone that your supossed to love he has time to play games with girls online but cant spend 1 hour with me am i wrong for being upset? please help!!
Frederic Chen says
Talk to him about it and tell him how it makes you feel. Successful relationships are all about communication.
It’s probably worth getting on the same page with him where you both are in terms of the relationship — some people need more attention and some don’t and that’s perfectly fine but you have to have a balance. No attention at all is obviously very bad (and not much of a relationship) but there are times when you both will be busy and there may be times you just can’t talk with each other.
If he isn’t receptive, I think it’s worth considering moving on. He clearly wouldn’t be as invested in the relationship as you are and that’s a pretty clear sign he isn’t the one.